Hard Choices

I am not a risk-taker.

And because of that, I do not like making decisions. I consider every variable, consult all of the research available to me, and run any tests I can think of that could give me extra information. I torment myself mentally with all of the possible outcomes, wondering which one will result in the least chance of failure or negative consequences. This happens whether I’m choosing a sandwich off of a menu or choosing which university to attend. Big or small, decisions slow me down. And I’m working on becoming more agile.

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“… Can you show me how?”

It feels so good to be indispensable. To reach a level of mastery with something that becomes a part of who you are. To be that person that others go to when they need help with your area of expertise. Your individual job security in part depends on your own ability to fill niches, to excel in your niche, and to always be willing to use these skills to help others.

It feels feels good, that is, until you’re on vacation. Just as you’re slapping on your sunscreen and are about to hit the sand… your phone blows up. Now is not a good time to be needed! Suddenly, the niche feels a little small. A little busy. A little overwhelming.

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Networking: A Fancy Word For Connection

You’re at a party. You’re standing with your drink and small foods in your hands. You’re glancing around the room when suddenly you see someone you recognize vaguely from that other thing you both attended a few months ago. They come over to talk to you. You chat about the things you have in common. You leave the conversation and move on to something else, but that brief moment of connection cements that particular person, out of the hundred or so that were there that night, in your memory. A few weeks later, you see a news story that reminds you of the conversation you had with that person at that party. You send them a link through Facebook and ask them for their thoughts. The relationship continues from there.

If that conversation happened to be about work, then you’re networking.

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